Sometimes holding onto the past is tricky. So many times we want the past to come back and take over the present—at least I know I do. In the past two years my life has changed drastically. From friends to family, the theme of people leaving has taken over. I found this quote today, “There is an end to all things no matter how much we want to hold on to them.”
Maybe holding on is the problem, because we’re holding on we can’t seem to move on. Because it hurt so bad that we wonder if, by chance, we do find a way to move on, that the pain will go away. Maybe it does or maybe we’re just so good at hiding it and pretending that nothing is wrong that we forget about the pain. At least until it slaps us in the face, reminding us that it’s still there.
That’s what a wound is. Something you think you’ve resolved it. It’s buried deep down—so far that you don’t even realize it until it erupts, and like a volcano, lava spews everywhere and it’s impossible to ignore. Like a hard punch in the chest, knocking the wind out of you.
Every character has a wound. If you can write a book without one, then that person may not be human—and even the non humans have a weakness—a pain—something. Something that will erupt. They will have to face it. Because you can’t hide from your past and the foundation that built you. Eventually you’ll have to rip the Band-Aid off and let air hit the lesion. It’s how you survive, how you get through, that really makes you who you are. It’s the journey from becoming who you are and who the world sees you as.
So maybe there is an end to all things-maybe a friendship that you thought would last forever or a parent that passed away. Maybe even a relationship or marriage that has crumbled. But with each ending there is a new beginning, opportunities & friendships. So why not take it? Grab the bull by the horns and let it take you away. Because looking at the past and what could have been is only depressing.
Remember when writing those characters, it’s about the journey—it’s about them stepping out of their comfort zone and ripping off the band-aid.